The very first thing to pay attention to on a first date
is not clothing! It's the smile. Pay attention if your
date is smiling when you meet. A person who isn't in
the habit of smiling in general is not likely to smile when
you meet for the first time either. They will be busy
looking and checking you out. A person who smiles a lot, on
the other hand, will most likely smile in this situation as
well. And you get your first check mark.
The second most important thing is to see "where" your
date is looking. If you are a woman, pay attention if your
guy has looked you in the eyes before he had checked
out your body. It's this very subtle and quick moment, but
it will tell you a lot about the guy.
Then, see what your date wearing. Try to evaluate if this
person pays attention to their appearance or they are a
slob. However, if you are a woman, prepare to ignore your
guy-date's outfit in favor of his manners and other things.
Many decent guys just don't know how and where to buy
clothes. If a guy is dressed well - bonus! If he is dressed
too well - pay attention! We almost guarantee that he will
expect you to "adore" all those numerous wonderful things
about him later. Make sure he deserves it!
If the two of you are meeting in a place where food or
snacks are served, see if your date makes any efforts to be
nice to you. See if they ask you what kind of food and
restaurants you like, see if they offer calling a waiter for
you, if you need a refill, etc. The general idea is to see,
if your date is attentive to you in general human terms or
not.
If you are a woman and your date if a guy, pay attention
if he is staring at other women around you. If he stares at
other women on a first date, imagine what he'll do later.
You'll won't enjoy your downtown walks with him, that's for
sure! If your guy is simply "noticing" attractive women when
they walk by, don't worry. Men will always be men, they
can't help it. But if your guy is checking out pretty much
every girl who passes by, then he's got problems you
wouldn't want to deal with.
These are the major "little" things to pay attention to
on the first date.
The main thing is, of course, communication! The choice
of topics and emphasis, use of adjectives (positive versus
negatives), things like that. If a person calls things
"wonderful" and "beautiful" , then s/he is more likely to be
happier and friendlier than a person who uses negative and
neutral adjectives (sucks, not bad, okay, etc.). It's all
common sense, folks. We talk about what we like! So make
your judgments from there.
